There has been debates over time dangling on the necessity to open up to ones future spouse or not.
Is it really necessary? It's in the past so why not just move on with the future?
Past relationships or experiences can be a sensitive issue to discuss with a future partner. You wouldn't want them to have a wrong impression about you but trust and loyalty is what strengthens any kind of bond.
Before you decided to marry such person, you had a certain assurance that you can trust and confide in this person.... if you had doubts about a person before marriage, why go into it the first place.
You don't need to go about telling everyone you meet about your past. No, that's your privacy.... but, when you find "that person" you are sure you want to spend the rest of your life with, it's very important to let it all out.
Still not convinced, here are some major reasons why you need to reveal your past to your future spouse.
1. The Truth still Comes Out Somehow
Nothing is hidden under the sun... That little secret you keep pushing under the rug, someone else may know about it, someone you don't even know or remember. The truth still lies out there and will find it's way back someday.
You wouldn't want to catch your spouse by surprise when it happens. It will totally wreck the marriage.
Your spouse needs to know all about you and your past from you alone and not from someone else or from the streets.It's very important you open up.
2. You Get To Find Out If They Truly Love You Or Not.
We all have that little information about our past that we would rather keep quite about.
If you open up to your future spouse and they get angry and decide not to go on with the wedding, you should be happy... they don't deserve you. If someone is truly for you, they will be ready to accept you regardless of whatever ugly past you have had.
3. It Bridges The Gap of Communication
When you open up to someone and let them know details about you that no one else knows, they naturally feel inclined to confide in you too.
If you can talk to your fiancée or fiancé about that ugly dirty secret then you will feel comfortable telling them anything. Also, they will be motivated to share other sides of themselves to you too. You become more of each other's best friend.
80% of parents who have good relationship with their children share their past with their children and assure them it's okay to make mistakes.
4. It Solidifies Trust
Trust, once broken cannot be easily repaired. It's very important to build your relationship on trust. Don't build on lies, secrets and deception, it would only ruin you.
You will always need another lie to cover up a lie.... You won't want to do that.
5. Peace Of Mind
The peace of mind you experience when you and your spouse are on the same page can't really be quantified.
You don't need to keep watching over your shoulders for anyone coming to attack your new found love. You get this peace of mind that your spouse knows all about you.
You feel free to share your passwords, IDs without thinking of any hidden skeletons.
Marriages built on trust and love always stand the test of time so before you think of avoiding that topic, it's best to think again.
