First wedding night - what happens?

First wedding night - what happens?

There was this bible story i read sometime ago, about a lady "Sarah", and a guy "Tobit", who got married after so many years of demonic attacks from the side of the lady, she has been married to many guys but all died at their wedding night, because there was a demon tormenting and taking the lives of her newly wedded husbands, and none of them cared to know why it's happening and ask God for assistance. It happened that this particular man named Tobit conquered the demon through prayers with his new wife Sarah, it happened that they prayed on their wedding night instead of having sex.

Now the question here is, "what actually happens at wedding nights"?

You remember how it is when you give birth to a baby,and then you start to nurse the baby and probably teach the baby how to lie, crawl, stand, walk and then run.

Couples have always think that wedding night is for making love and deflowering their wife, and i wonder who told them that? Maybe it's now a culture, cause that's what most couples think of and can't wait to do after getting married, well it's a necessity but then can we just take some minutes to ponder over it?.. 

Why can't we just build a solid foundation in our marriages by setting some certain rules that we will follow through till the day we die, rather than having sex immediately, why not kneel down and pray like you've never done before with your partner, marriage they say is a life's journey and it needs a lot of grace to stand and not fall, so what has having sex got to do with this life's journey preparation?

You can have and rip each other apart for more than 50 years, so why not savoir the moment and pray and ask God for assistance, mercy, grace, understanding that no one on earth can give to you except God.

My point is not to condemn love making, no not at all, as a matter of fact, love making is the most essential part of every marriage and building up a family, but we have to take things easy, and start by praying the night right after your wedding, seek God first and cast the enemy (Satan) far far away before devouring each other.

I mean what's yours is yours right?

You have that night to glorify and thank God for a successful wedding and bringing you guys together, then ask for His mercy and grace to accomplish the mission He has chosen you guys for, marriage is not just for the fun of it, there's a lot more to it, building up a world from a little corner of the earth called family, that's where lawyers, doctors, presidents, engineers and so many others comes form, they don't just fall from the sky, so every couple have a role to play in this world by bringing up and training a whole nation from the little one God has given to them. And it's a sin not to train your kids in the fear of God.

After praying with your newly wedded wife, you should probably get some rest after an exhausting day so your head can rest too and refresh itself for a bigger planning, of course you have to go on a honeymoon, not for the sexual thrills but for the purpose of having an alone time without distractions, to be able to make one or two plans for the future with your wife, you have to talk about finances, when and how to make babies, yes you don't just start making babies right after you are married, you need to plan your family "family planning", know the strategy and how to bring them up, you have to make sure you and your spouse reach an agreement on how to handle your family so it doesn't come up as a misunderstanding later in the future, after all they say "a well planned war is already won". so if you really want to win and survive this war called marriage and turn it to a victory, then definitely you have to lay a strong foundation with prayers and then build upon it a solid sky scraper that'll contain the world you are about to build for generations. 



As we always have it.. You can't steal from your own pot of soup. What's yours is yours.

May God bless your new home and build upon it a haven of generations.


-Augustine Martins (augustinemartins.blogspot.com)