Being single can be a very big struggle, especially if all your friends are in a relationship and they keep rubbing it in your face. Mostly during Valentine's Day...
I know the struggle. Been there.
well, your single days are over. I have complied a list of the best ways to find "True" love.
Although true love is hard to come by, but be sure to meet your true love in less than a month if you follow the simple guidelines below:
1. Find Yourself
For a moment, Stop looking for true love and start finding yourself. Turn your attention to yourself.
-what past wounds will you like to heal?
-Have you gotten over that Ex?
-What are your Strengths and Weaknesses?
-Are you datable/lovable?
-is your heart open to finding someone new?
Do some self examination... build on your strengths and strengthen your weaknesses.
I used to be an introvert, I was very shy and loved staying indoors. I had been that way since I was born. Those were my weaknesses but I took conscious efforts to develop and strengthen my weakness. It wasn't easy but eventually paid off.
Take conscious efforts to build yourself spiritually, mentally, physically and socially.
2. What kind of person are you looking for?
You need to know the kind of person you need. Articulate what you want in love just so when you find it, you will know that's exactly what you seek.
* Start with your core needs. What things are “must haves”? Do you need a partner who shares your social or religious values? Who wants a family? Who understands and validates your career?
* Learn to understand your own emotional needs. Think of earlier relationships and what made you feel fulfilled and what didn’t. You might need good chemistry, for example, but you also might need loyalty or a strong intellectual connection.
3. Get Out of the House
Now you have worked on yourself and it's time to start the search.
You are definitely not going to find your true love by staying home all day just day dreaming . You need to get out! start mingling with society. Aside from going to and from work, or school, make an effort to get out of the house at least once or twice a week.
- join club or group activities
- Join service units (for christian brothers and sisters)
- Join youth communities
If you live in a small town the chances of your soul mate being in your hometown may be slim. If you want to find the person of your dreams faster it’s probably a good idea to travel outside your zone. Take a day trip to an area nearby and visit some of the local hot spots. Not only do you get to experience a new location, which is always refreshing and good for the soul, you expose yourself to even more eligible singles that are nearby.
4. Check Your Appearance
As you are ready to leave the house and search (or make yourself findable), it's very important for you to note that appearance matters a lot.
Have a good first impression.
How you present yourself reflects you in some way and helps with attraction.
This doesn't mean you need to break the bank to look good but "carriage is key". Look smart and carry yourself with confidence and class.
5. Strike Up Conversation
When you’re out and about, don’t be afraid to walk up to anyone and strike a conversation.
Most ladies in Nigeria find this part very uncomfortable but trust me, the violent taketh it by force! Step out of your comfort zone, walk up to that girl or guy and start a conversation.
Whether you’re at the gym working out or in line at the grocery store, conversation is the key to building a strong relationship. Even if it turns out to be nothing more than a friendly conversation, it opens you up, exposes you to new people, and helps you learn how to break the ice.
6. Do Not Rush
When you meet someone, don’t hurry things; allow the relationship to unfold.
When you meet someone you have a good connection with, allow that connection to develop and grow. If the person is a soul mate, he or she will also be into you, so if you both pay genuine attention to each other then something will develop.
There is no need to play games or to try particular seduction techniques or to achieve milestones by a particular time. A successful long-term relationship is not a game.
Love builds from friendship in most cases. If you're looking for true love, start out by building a genuine friendship and a relationship based on affection, shared values, and mutual respect.
* Let intimacy grow naturally. You might feel ready for it right away or it might take a while. The important thing is not to rush it.
* Don’t be afraid to fall in love. If a person makes you feel fulfilled and happy, they may be the right material.
