First wedding night - what happens?

First wedding night - what happens?

There was this bible story i read sometime ago, about a lady "Sarah", and a guy "Tobit", who got married after so many years of demonic attacks from the side of the lady, she has been married to many guys but all died at their wedding night, because there was a demon tormenting and taking the lives of her newly wedded husbands, and none of them cared to know why it's happening and ask God for assistance. It happened that this particular man named Tobit conquered the demon through prayers with his new wife Sarah, it happened that they prayed on their wedding night instead of having sex.

Now the question here is, "what actually happens at wedding nights"?

You remember how it is when you give birth to a baby,and then you start to nurse the baby and probably teach the baby how to lie, crawl, stand, walk and then run.

Couples have always think that wedding night is for making love and deflowering their wife, and i wonder who told them that? Maybe it's now a culture, cause that's what most couples think of and can't wait to do after getting married, well it's a necessity but then can we just take some minutes to ponder over it?.. 

Why can't we just build a solid foundation in our marriages by setting some certain rules that we will follow through till the day we die, rather than having sex immediately, why not kneel down and pray like you've never done before with your partner, marriage they say is a life's journey and it needs a lot of grace to stand and not fall, so what has having sex got to do with this life's journey preparation?

You can have and rip each other apart for more than 50 years, so why not savoir the moment and pray and ask God for assistance, mercy, grace, understanding that no one on earth can give to you except God.

My point is not to condemn love making, no not at all, as a matter of fact, love making is the most essential part of every marriage and building up a family, but we have to take things easy, and start by praying the night right after your wedding, seek God first and cast the enemy (Satan) far far away before devouring each other.

I mean what's yours is yours right?

You have that night to glorify and thank God for a successful wedding and bringing you guys together, then ask for His mercy and grace to accomplish the mission He has chosen you guys for, marriage is not just for the fun of it, there's a lot more to it, building up a world from a little corner of the earth called family, that's where lawyers, doctors, presidents, engineers and so many others comes form, they don't just fall from the sky, so every couple have a role to play in this world by bringing up and training a whole nation from the little one God has given to them. And it's a sin not to train your kids in the fear of God.

After praying with your newly wedded wife, you should probably get some rest after an exhausting day so your head can rest too and refresh itself for a bigger planning, of course you have to go on a honeymoon, not for the sexual thrills but for the purpose of having an alone time without distractions, to be able to make one or two plans for the future with your wife, you have to talk about finances, when and how to make babies, yes you don't just start making babies right after you are married, you need to plan your family "family planning", know the strategy and how to bring them up, you have to make sure you and your spouse reach an agreement on how to handle your family so it doesn't come up as a misunderstanding later in the future, after all they say "a well planned war is already won". so if you really want to win and survive this war called marriage and turn it to a victory, then definitely you have to lay a strong foundation with prayers and then build upon it a solid sky scraper that'll contain the world you are about to build for generations. 



As we always have it.. You can't steal from your own pot of soup. What's yours is yours.

May God bless your new home and build upon it a haven of generations.


-Augustine Martins (augustinemartins.blogspot.com) 

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4 notorious kidnappers arrested in Zamfara

Four Notorious Kidnappers arrested in Zamfara

The Zamfara State Police Command on Monday arrested four suspected kidnappers in Dankadon-Daji village in Talata-Mafara Local Government Area of the state.

This was disclosed by the Zamfara State Commissioner of Police in Gusau.

Embrinson said the suspects were arrested on February 18 after intelligence report disclosed that the kidnappers had sent letters to individuals threatening to kidnap the villagers if they failed to make money available for them.

“The police arrested the suspects while trying to collect a sum of N39,500 provided by the villagers.

“The suspects are undergoing interrogation at the police command in the state after which they would be prosecuted,” he said.

According to Embrinson, the Inspector-General of Police’s Joint Investigation Committee is in the state to investigate the recent killings in Birane Village, Zurmi Local Government Area of the state.

He said the committee was mandated to investigate, arrest and bring the perpetrators of the recent attack in Birane village to justice.

Embrinson, however, appealed to members of the public to utilize police information network kit and provide police with information on security to assist security agencies in tackling insecurity in the state.

Recall that the command had arrested three principal suspects in connection with last Thursday’s gunmen attack in Birane village, which resulted in the death of 30 people, while many were injured.

-Daily Post

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25 golden rules of life in pictures - photo

25 golden rules of life in pictures

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Life is easy only if you can learn to let go!!! - Hi5ivtech.com

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Can’t really forget your Ex – see how

Can’t really forget your Ex – see how

I’ve talked about forgetting your past on my previous post "LETTING GO OF YOUR PAST LIFE". Your past relationship is also a part of your past you need to let go.

It’s okay to feel terrible after a breakup and I’m assuming the breakup was because it didn’t work out between you two, or there’s a good reason you needed to let go, but whichever way it goes, it’s always painful especially for the one that loves the most, love should be 50:50 for it to work out fine (my opinion).

But here’s a list of things to help you get over that feelings & move on.

1.  Letting go – after a breakup, accept the fact that you won’t see each other again, let go of every thought and occupy yourself with other relevant things.

2. Lose contact – it’s actually the first thing to do, for you not to have a reminder. It’s really a bad idea to still have your ex on any of your social media platforms, block and delete (BD) from all the platforms.

3. Hangout with friends – have a refreshment of mind and ideas with your many other friends, you can ask them to help you take your mind off things.

4. Avoid loneliness – you don’t have to lock yourself up in a room crying and thinking about your ex all day, come on!! There are a lot of things to do and see, have you thought about your hobby? Career or things you need to learn and be useful to yourself as a human being. You can watch movies when less busy, play games, read books/novels, practice a lot of new things. Either way don’t give room for loneliness.

5. Forgive and Forget – accept the fact that your ex has moved on for good and you should too, try and be happy instead of hating or regretting. Let go of every thought, of course you will always remember and get those flashes of moments spent together, just try not to think and dwell on them, always wave it off saying “it’s for the best and I’m happy”.

6. Don’t lock yourself up – always give room for new friends, but avoid getting into a new relationship so fast because it might be disastrous, as you desperately seek comfort, you might end up in the wrong hands. Just think about yourself for at least some weeks get yourself refreshed enjoy your single life before ending up in a relationship again.

7. I’ve always advised my friends to at least hangout with whomever you want to date for at least a month or more to make sure you are not too quick to start up with them and regret it at the end.

Don’t forget to always pray. It works.

Letting go is hard, but with good practice you can do it.

Good luck – Hi5ivtech.com

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How to let go of your past life and move on - Letting go

I’ve heard a lot of people say things like “I wish I could go back in time and change things”, well my dear friend, that can never happen in this world as far as gravity is concerned.

Don’t get carried away by those movies you watch thinking it’s possible to go back in time and change things. But what actually happened to experience being the best teacher? Of course we meet different types of people in this life, either they are a blessing or a lesson which must be learnt the easy or hard way. Whomever is being taught a lesson should always learn and try their best to put things right in their life.

For instance, you had a misfortune in life and blamed it on your past life, wishing you could go back and turn things around, probably you met someone or made some mistakes, well I wouldn’t say it’s totally wrong to have remorse or wish for things to had happened the other way around, but rather than thinking so much about things you cannot change try to work on your present and future instead of your past which is gone and can’t be retrieved.

“If you can’t let go of your past then there’s never a future for you” - Austin Martins

your past is a lesson you had to learn, easy or the hard way. So I say you embrace it, make peace with it, accept every bit of it without regrets and make love with it so you can have a beautiful future together.

Yeah! You can’t live in your past and make a future, it’s never possible, because it was all a lesson you learnt, use it to build your future and make it a beautiful one.’

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. You survived it so why do you keep on hunting yourself with it?

Say you accept it and you can be able to move on, no matter what it was rape? Death? Terrible Decisions? Break ups? Accept all and make sure to retrace your steps and make a beautiful future.

Life Is Easy only if you can learn to let go of some things, especially YOUR PAST.

Falling is not the problem, raising after a fall is the problem. Let go of your burden (past) raise and stand up firm and stronger, there’s a lot more you need to achieve.

Always pray and ask God for forgiveness but remember, you have to forgive yourself first before God will forgive you.

God bless – Austin Martins (Hi5ivtech.com)

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10 Ways to keep a boring relationship alive

10 Ways to keep a boring relationship alive

There’s nothing so worrisome than having a partner and still feel lonely or bored even when they are around you.

Or that stage in a relationship you almost get tired of your partner and really need some space.

The worst part is not being able to help the situation, because you keep losing interest in each other day by day, but you still want to make things work out because you love and always want your partner around.

A lot of couples have asked this questions so many times and in so many ways and still find it difficult to maintain a relationship with their partners, they always want to be away from each other because they can’t find nothing to do together, I want to let you know that there is no specific solution to your boring relationship, but there are things you can do to revive it and rekindle the fire of love between you two, and secondly when it comes to love, you don’t force things to happen, you just let it happen naturally and that’s the best way to LOVE someone.

I’m going to lay down some tricks that have worked for me in reviving my almost dead relationship, it might be the solutions you are looking for, just know that this trick is not a piece of magic but something you have to devote your time in doing all for the sake of your marriage or relationship.  

1   1.Plan A Trip – Plan a trip to an exciting place. This trick always works, it refreshes us and gives us a new idea and things to talk about, ladies can go on and on and on about this exciting trip they went on and how it felt like their honeymoon all over again, yes it always works like magic don’t neglect the power of changing environment or having an adventure together, it’s a necessity in everyday life apart from relationships, it refreshes our mind, soul and body.

     2. Nostalgic Feelings – You might wonder what I’m really talking about. LOL yeah!! I’m talking about that love at first sight feelings. You might want to recreate that feelings all over again, you can take her to that right spot where you met her and try to remember all you said to her before she fell in love with you. This have often times worked a miracle in rekindling the fire of love, it brings back a lot of memories that makes you see the beauty in your partner right-away like sparks of light. Take that trip down your memory lane.

    3. Movie – It’s also the best way to relax and get the best of entertainment, you don’t have to sit at home, same cushion, same TV watching some old movie, maybe you need that sparks, that crowd, that bucket of popcorn and a can of diet coke to put you guys back in line.

    4. Write A Diary – Remember that diary we always write together with our best friend when we were kids, you can also have fun writing a diary with your partner, about a lot of adventures you had growing up or when you guys met.

    5. Dinner with friends – you might have this friend who is also married, with kids maybe or not, you can always have a scheduled dinner with them, call it “Couples Friday Dinner”, it can be hosted at their place or your place, just get together and have a fun time together.

     6. Learn Something Together – it’s always fun learning new things with your partner, let’s say you don’t know how to cook as a man, well it’s time to learn how to cook one or two meals from your wife. Let’s say your wife doesn’t know how to do some dirty jobs, work the generator or fix a minor car fault, you can plant an orchard together at your backyard, all for the fun and gain.

1    7.  Visit Your Old Parents – it’s always fun at the village, that stream you fetched water from as a kid, you can go sightseeing, relax with your old parents and feel at home once more.

     8. Couples Night Out – There’s always this show going on at one love garden or the other, night of thousand laughs, Friday shows, weekend getaway, there’s a lot happening out there, just get yourself hooked up it worth it.

     9. Think About Having Babies – Babies are the light and happiness of every marriage, with no doubt, you should make plans of having babies, they always have a way of bringing the family together and devoted.

     10. Always Pray Together – A family that prays together always stays together, without God in your marriage or relationship, you are bound to failure. It’s God that keeps everything in place not I or you. God-Over-Everything #GOE.

     Well with all those list up there, you are free to try anyone or all of them. But always have in mind that being devoted is the key to every happy marriage, and always communicate, it’s necessary.

     Wish you all the best and a Happy Home. <3 i="" nbsp="">-Austine Martins (Hi5ivtech)

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How to speed up a slow PC without any Software or formatting - windows 7,8,10

How to speed up a slow PC without any Software or formatting - windows 7,8,10

A laptop - windows 7,8,10

I was having this serious problem of slow and hanging processes on my laptop, it seemed almost impossible to work or do anything on my laptop, so I had to do a research and I found out this great solution which solved the problem of slowing down or hanging on my laptop without using any software or formatting the system, so I decided to share it with you guys, you might have the same problem and looking for solution, search no more because you have found it.

I’m just going to laydown the processes with the help of images to help you understand and be able to do it without much struggle.

Okay. Let’s start.

1.  Click on “Start Menu” click on search and type “msconfig” without the quotes.

2. Click on msconfig or press enter.

3. Select the “General Option” now check the “selective start” option and un-tick “load startup items”.

4. Select the “Service” option, tick the “Hide all Microsoft services”, now after ticking this option.

5. Click on “Disable all” option.

6. Click on “Apply” and “OK”. The system will ask you to restart or restart later. Choose restart and allow the system to restart.

Now you’re PC is working fine again. Share if it worked for you or feel free to ask questions or leave a comment.

Good luck.

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Wife tells court her husband is an incurable womanizer, he runs after anything in skirt.

Igando (Lagos State) – An Igando Customary Court in Lagos on Thursday intervened in a marital crisis and saved a four years old marriage from collapse.

Instead of granting the prayers of Mrs Sandra Nwabisi to dissolve her troubled marriage with her husband, Hope, the court imposed on itself the job of reconciling the couple. 

The court’s President, Mr Akin Akinniyi, resolved the differences between the estranged couple after several adjournments and interventions. 

While striking out the case, he admonished the couple to maintain peace and continue to live in love and harmony. “Since the court was able to reconcile the couple through counselling, I urge both of you to go home and live in peace, love and be law abiding,” he said. Earlier during the hearing of the case, Sandra, had sought divorce, claiming that her husband had been bringing his lovers to their matrimonial home and had also infected her with Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs). “My husband is an incurable womanizer, he runs after anything in skirt. He comes home with different girls of different sizes and colours. “Whenever I challenge him to take the girls to the hotel, he always descends on me and give me severe beating. “Hope has infected me with STDs due to his adulterous lifestyle,” the 33-year old trader lamented. The mother of three described her husband as an ingrate, who could not appreciate that she had been paying the rent for the house they were living since they got married. According to her, she has been taking care of their children’s school fees. “I do not love him any longer and I am not interested in the marriage again,” 

The husband, however, denied all the allegations, accusing her of accommodating her married female friends in their house. “Sandra brings her friends home to spend days and whenever I ask her to send her friends away, she will fight me.” The 44-year-old businessman, who accused her of threatening to kill him, added:“I perceived the odour of Jik when I removed food from the fridge. When I called her attention to the food, she quickly carried the food and disposed off the food. “Because of that I stopped eating her food and stopped making love to her since October 2016.” He had consented to the dissolution of the marriage, saying “I am also tired of the marriage.”(NAN)

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Two men jailed 18 months for stealing soap

Two men, Auwalu Tasi’u Gwazaye and Bashir Abubakar Dorayi have been sentenced to 18 months by a Kano Magistrate court for stealing soap worth N9.7m.

The accused were arraigned for criminal conspiracy and theft contrary to Sections 97 and 287 of the Penal Code.

The Police Prosecutor, ASP Sani Musa told the court that one Umar Lawan Mangal of Hausawa quarters represented by one Muhammad Ndako Abdul of the same address reported the matter to the police.

According to Musa, Abdul told the police that the accused persons had about two years ago stolen about 3,000 cartons of B29 soap valued at N1.4m at their store located along IBB way in the state metropolis.

He said that they also came and stole another consignment of 2,849 cartons of same soap valued at N12, 820, 500.

The prosecutor said during investigation, police had recovered N3.1m from the accused while the remaining N9, 720, 500, 00 were yet to be recovered.

The accused, however, pleaded guilty to the two-count charges.

However, the court presided over by Chief Magistrate Fatihu Yassar offered the convicts options of N50, 000 fine each.

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A Female Student Narrates How she was robbed, raped by guys who posed as female on social media

A student (name withheld ) on Thursday recounted before a Sexual Offences Court in Lagos how she was lured to a location by a supposed female friend she met on social media who claimed to be a fashion entrepreneur and just returned from the United Kingdom to set up a business in Lagos.

The victim, who is also a model, said her supposed online friend told her she would need her expertise to get the business moving. But it turned out it was a male gang using a female pseudonym to lure, rob and rape unsuspecting victims.

Giving evidence before Sybil Nwaka, the judge, the victim said she met a lady called Vanessa on social media.

“She told me she just moved to Nigeria from the UK that she was going to start a fashion business in Nigeria and since I have an idea of the fashion industry, that I could show her around and give her ideas and I agreed.”

“Subsequently we talked for like seven months and I got real comfortable with her because we talked a lot and I felt she was a girl entrepreneur like me and I supported her. She said her mum didn’t support her career and she would like her mum to meet me and I agreed.”

“She said she would send the address and I informed her I would take Uber but she admonished that I save on transporting so I took a bus to the address. When I got to the address, I felt it was the wrong address and called her but she said she would send her gateman over.”

“The second defendant, Naduzie Okabueze, acted like the gateman. She said she was helping her mum so she couldn’t come to pick me. On getting to the house it looked like a proper house from outside but on getting inside I felt something was wrong and called her. She said her father runs a hotel and her mum sometimes stayed there and I naively believed her.”

According to the victim, when they got to the staircase inside the house, Mr. Okabueze, joined by Gabriel Obinna and Victor Ukwu, the first and second defendants, started beating her and stripped her naked.

“They asked me to give them my ATM card saying if I didn’t give them N2 million they would kill me. They collected my phone password and pin number and asked me to start calling people to send money to me. They said I should call my parents but I lied they were both dead. I called my cousin and he sent money to me. I got there about 11:59 am and was there till 7 pm.”

“They withdrew the money my cousin sent and collected the gold chain I had on me. They took naked pictures of me and the three guys had sex with me and they were blackmailing me with the pictures they took saying if I told anybody what happened that they were going to find me and kill me.”

“The second defendant took me to the bus stop to make sure I didn’t talk to anybody. I boarded a bus and went to my cousin’s house.”

The victim said that after narrating the incident to her cousin, she insisted they go to a police station and lodge a report.

However, when they got to a police station near the Ikeja Police barracks, according to the victim, the officers were more interested in extorting money from them.

“A friend of my cousin then asked us to go to the Domestic Violence and Sexual Abuse Response Team at Alausa and we did.

“On getting there, they took me to Mirabel Centre and they carried out tests on me and gave me pet drugs to use for a month. They assigned a lady to follow me to make a police report in the area the incident occurred and we went to Agege Police Station.”

“Two weeks after, the five of them were caught by the police while doing the same thing they did to me to another girl and I was called to come and identify them and I did. I spoke with the other girl and she narrated the same thing on how she was in contact with Vanessa.”

When asked by the prosecutor, Jide Boye, whether she met any Vanessa, the victim said, “I never met any Vanessa. I didnt recover any of the items they collected from me. My cousin sent N50,000 and they collected N20,000 from me too and the gold chain my dad gifted me alongside my phone.”

When asked what tests she did at Mirabel Centre she said, “they took my urine, blood and removed semen from inside my body.”

Asked about the second victim, she said, “the last time I saw her was when the case was at Ogba, she said she was scared for her life and she doesn’t think she would be coming to court again.”

The defence counsel – Ms, Scholastica, counsel to the first, second and fifth defendants; Ethel Onuoha, counsel to the third defendant, and Momina Osamede, counsel to the 4fourth defendant – asked the court to give a short adjournment for cross examination in order to enable them prepare adequately.

The judge adjourned till February 16 for cross examination of the witness.

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NBA Ikeja Fixes 20th Of February To March Against Nigerian Police Brutality

Nigeria Bar Association (NBA) Ikeja branch has scheduled a march against brutality and extrajudicial activities being carried out by officials of the Nigeria Police Force in the country.

Nigeria Bar Association (NBA) Ikeja branch has scheduled a march against brutality and extrajudicial activities being carried out by officials of the Nigeria Police Force in the country.

Making this known to the public, Chairman of Ikeja Branch of NBA, Adesina Ogunlana, said that the police has for a long time been acting as a force whose officials are above the law. He stated that the protest became important after receiving the report of a committee set up to look into the assault and harassment of one of its members, Barrister Fatai Adeyemi Abijo.

He slammed the police force for being unprofessional in carrying out their duties and that has been shown on several occasions as Nigerians are being battered, ridiculed and treated as animals.

He complained, “To the average Nigerian, the Nigeria police is an arch-enemy, a horror, a nightmare, an evil, an affliction, a malady, a curse, an epitome of wickedness, a disaster, a complete abomination and an organization of calamity.”

“The police in the performance of their jobs are for most times, rude, crude, unreasonable, abusive, malicious, mean, unjust, dishonest, extortionate, compulsively lips, rapacious, violence and barbaric leading to the routine maiming, killing, humiliation and extortion of innocent citizens of Nigeria,” he added.

Barrister Adesina expressed that political will is lacking on the part of the leadership of Nigeria government to see that an organ of government that is so vital like the police will respect the people of Nigeria.

He faulted the police on some of the illegal activities being embarked upon like changing of charges and extrajudicial killing which occur in all part of the country.

Speaking further, he lamented that Nigerians are always treated as dogs whenever they have encountered the police. He called on the people to rise up against the unprofessionalism of the police and other security agencies.

He also urged lawyers to see themselves as change agents and encourage them to stand up for the people.

“We are going to the street to collaborate with the people to ensure that this anomaly is ended. The people must not be treated as dogs, so they must reject police oppression, brutality, and irresponsibility by the Nigeria police.”

He disclosed that the protest would not be a violent one and protesters would be moving to the office of the governor of Lagos state to present a letter to the Governor and Speaker of the House of Assembly.

source-saharareporters.com

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